image of hands forming hearts with text LOVE always looks for the bestTwo things cited most often NOT to talk about are religion and politics. As part of the LGBTQ+ Community and the disenfranchisement we can feel from some, make these taboo topics nearly impossible to leave out. Why?

LOVE always looks for the best…

We’re talking relationships, right?

Going to the grocery I always have my eye out for the “best” produce, cuts of meat and the like.  That makes sense.

Shopping for a wardrobe, furniture, vehicle, vacation, and even solar panel options for our home all of us look for the “best” right?

Do we look for the best in the people we encounter?

It would be nice to think we all do yet if we’re honest – isn’t that sentiment more situational?

Two things cited most often NOT to talk about are religion and politics.  As part of the LGBTQ+ Community and the disenfranchisement we can feel from some, make these taboo topics nearly impossible to leave out.

Why?

Maybe… just maybe – it’s because our level of emotional and psychological attachment goes off the chart in nanoseconds when these topics come up.  We’re so stuck in our convictions we can’t begin to consider anyone else’s point of view or frame of reference.

What if we aspire to “LOVE always looks for the best”?  

What would I need to think and feel to allow another person to be heard and have a dialogue on a difficult topic?

I recently watched “The War Over Gender” on the show, “The Problem With Jon Stewart”.   On the show he interviewed a few people – parents of queer kids, along with LGBTQ+ legal and medical experts, living in a world where some politicians are making very personal and private decisions for parents and their children, in the name of protecting children.

One of the more insightful segments was the interview with Arkansas Attorney General Leslie Rutledge.  It was an interesting conversation showing how out of touch politicians can be when making choices for people regarding issues they know very little about.  

Some suggested all the fuss about trans kids of late has been a deliberate political maneuvering designed to stir up the conservative base in an election year.

I personally know many people who are disenfranchised by politics and politicians so creating a clutch topics to stir things up makes sense.  The political ads on TV are already driving us crazy, wrought with half-truths and distortions intended to spark action at the polls.

One statement that blew me away “…There are doctors and we had plenty of people come to testify before our legislature who said that we have 98% of the young people who had gender dysphoria, that they are able to move past that and once they have the help that they need, no longer suffer from gender dysphoria.  98% without that medical treatment…”

Is that really true?  As Mr. Stewart pointed out – it’s a made-up statistic.  And yet, according to Attorney General Rutledge, the documented testimony of experts makes it true.  Unfortunately the Attorney General couldn’t site the source or organization and invited people to look it up.

Lord, I’m trying to look for the best…. I am!

It’s harder some days than others.  It’s harder depending on the players and the topic, which leads us back to the situational nature of looking for the best in LOVE.

As I’ve gone through these Attributes of LOVE I’ve been challenged and inspired to live my best life.    As an imperfect human, I want to do better.  When I can align my life with my core values life seems to go better.

I put these Attributes of LOVE out there in the hope we can all do a little better every day.

It begins with us.  We will be challenged to express love to the world if we don’t first love ourselves. 

It’s a journey and hopefully one y’all will join me on.

Wanna connect?  Let’s chat.

Thinking about y’all today…

You are valued…

You are loved…

You are ohh so precious…

And remember

Life’s too short  |  Be kind  |  Do good

Talk soon…

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